Anxiety and Communication

One of the side effects of having suffered from Social Anxiety disorder for any period of time is not having had the chance to develop effective communication skills. This stings two ways. First it can cause social stumbles when in the early days of working to cure one’s Social Anxiety disorder. Secondly, even when the social anxiety phobia is gone or near gone it can still create a kind of awkwardness that can be difficult to overcome.   Making an effort to learn how to communicate more effectively right from the start of working through your social anxiety pays huge dividends. Sticking with it for the long run will do wonders for your continued quality of life.   These tips will help.   Focus on the Person or People You are Speaking With. Social Anxiety will tempt you to think of everything, but the conversation you are engaging in. By doing your best to focus on the person or people you are talking with and the conversation you are engaged in, social anxiety will lose some of its steam. You will also be much more able to establish a sense of rapport. Everyone loves a good listener don’t they?   Avoid Interrupting.

It’s only natural that you would feel a need to speak quickly in an effort to break free of social anxiety’s grasp. This over compensation is not a way to effectively communicate. Instead make an effort to not interrupt others when they talk. All great communicators master this skill.

  Keep things Simple. Anxiety can make you long winded. As much as possible, in nearly every situation, keeping things simple, direct and to the point will allow you to communicate much more effectively. Don’t worry about sounding intelligent or trying to impress with a huge vocabulary. Communicating clearly, understanding and being understood is the goal that you should be focusing on. Not trying to make things over complicated.   Don’t Be Afraid to Plan Ahead. If you are planning to have a conversation about something in advance don’t be afraid to have a few key points in mind before hand. These can help you stay on point and be sure that all of the things you would like to touch on are discussed. Planning ahead can even involve writing things down and looking them over a few times if that learning method resonates well with you, like it does with many. The important thing to keep in mind with this tip is to not be afraid of planning ahead for an important conversation.   Speak at a Moderate Pace and at a Moderate Volume. Social Anxiety can unconsciously alter our speaking habits to make them less than perfect in communicating effectively. Speaking too low out of shyness or too quickly out of nervousness are common problems that can be corrected with just a little practice. Recruit a sympathetic ear to lend a hand or even using a tape recorder to practice with, can help you correct these issues. Speaking at a moderate pace in a moderate volume are hallmarks of a good communicator.   Communication is key! With these tips in mind great conversations are right around the corner.